Guide to Self-Confdence: Part 3

In the last two blog posts, we looked at what self-confidence is and then how we can work to improve it in ourselves. In this final instalment, we're going to identify ways in which we can support the people around us on their self-confidence journey.

But why should I help improve their self-confidence when I'm still working on mine?
Self-improvement is a never-ending journey, and while it's important to always put your wellbeing first, we should all support our friends along the way. A key part of improving our self-confidence is building a support network around us of people who we trust and care about. With that in mind, it becomes clear the positive impact our friendship and support will have on others.

So, we want to help our friends. But how do we go about it?
Being too forceful or upfront could be a little overwhelming and could backfire by making them think there's something wrong with them. Instead, focus on small, everyday changes you can make when interacting with them that will make them feel safe and loved. Here are a few different techniques that you can try out:

1. Be mindful of your jokes.
   We all love a bit of banter now and again, but jokes can have a lasting impact on people, even if they don't realise it at the time. If you find that most of the jokes you and your friends make are jokes at each other's expense, maybe it's time to find some alternatives. The odd joke is fine, but make it clear that it's a joke and what you're saying isn't true. Over time, you'll find that switching to jokes that aren't at the expense of anyone will have a positive impact on your whole group.

2. Appreciate your loved ones.
   We all know how much we value the important people in our lives, but how often do we actually tell them? It might feel awkward at first, but take the time to tell your friends and loved ones how much they mean to you and thank them for being in your life. Creating an open dialogue for positivity will improve your bond and leave you both feeling better in the long run.

3. Praise them for the small things.
   As we covered in the last two sections of this guide, confidence looks different in everyone, and the things you find easy might be incredibly difficult for someone else. If your friend has achieved something that you knew they found difficult, make sure to acknowledge their success, even if you would have found that same task easy. Make sure that you don't sound patronising when you do it though, or it could have the completely opposite effect!

4. Let them know that you're here for them.
   People always tell us that we can let them know if we need any help, but how many of us would feel comfortable asking them for it? Letting your friends know that you're here to support them is so much more than just telling them so. It's encouraging them to open up when they're struggling and sitting with them in silence when they need it. By all means, tell your friend that you're here if they need, but prove it to them in your actions as well.

5. Open up.
   Sometimes, the best support that you can give to someone is letting them know that you're in the same boat as them. Talk to them about the things that you're struggling with and, crucially, let them tell you what they're working on in return. Make sure that the conversation is balanced and that no one is dominating or talking about themselves too much. We always see the best in our friends and they're the same with us, so opening up in an honest, non-judgemental way will help you both support each other.

By following these steps and the first two parts of this guide, you will start to see a gradual change in your self-confidence and the confidence of those around you. Remember that this will take time, and some days will be better than others, but you will get there eventually!